The Lucy Eperience

The Lucy Eperience

Sunday, 12 January 2014

spread the word, stop the fear

So the blog is nearly at 5300! which is fantastic as I never expected anyone at all to read it.

This blog is important, and a big part of my life, not only because my vocation and love in life is for helping others in need, but because is it helping me!

This blog lets me talk about my experiences openly without worrying what people think of me directly.

Mental health has a lot of stigma around it and I know from previous experiences that if you tell someone you're depressed they coil away like you have a contagious disease. If you tell other people (especially my old GP) that you are depressed, they refuse to see is as an illness, they expect you to wake up after a week of rest and be fine and well like you've had a cold!

This blog is helping eradicate the stigma around mental health, but not just around mental health its self. It is eradicating the stigma around abuse. People feel as though they are not allowed to talk about abuse, especially children, they feel intimidated and threatened by adults and are less likely to tell someone. I remember coming into high school crying after SD threatened to kill me, he sat me in the car and explained how he would do it, he did this because I was 10 minutes late waking up. I remember the school 'pastoral manager' said that I had done something wrong and that I must apologise, I was 14. What on this earth could I have done to get a death threat off my biological father?

Some people do not understand the type of fear that runs through you when you are being abused. It is a sickening fear, your whole body is on edge, you want to vomit, you want to pass out, cry, scream, get away, anything just to stop it. I still get that fear, He may be gone but his name, people who look like him, sound like him or even act like him make me sick, they bring that fear and I shake, I can't stop shaking, because every time someone says his name, or catch a glimpse of a look-a-like I expect to be hit. My wrist burns expecting to be twisted and I hold back tears to the best of my ability.

I do not like the thought of people going through what I went through, Of people going through worse. It doesn't matter a persons age or situation, if abuse occurs there should be someone to help them. Not left in the dark like I was. Thats why sharing the blog, the facebook page, the links that are included, they could save someone, they could help a child, or a person, or even help someone recognise the indicators of abuse. It is just a small action that could change another persons life.

Important links are posted at the top of the page! So if you ever need help, they will always be their! Most of their lines are open 24/7 and offer friendly non-judgemental support.

So please share, please keep reading, and keep talking.

Lots of love,
Luce xxx