I'd grown up being the underdog, the girl in school people didn't like until I lost weight. The geek who worked hard in school, I only ever worked hard so I could get to college and university, I knew if I got to university I could have escaped SD. But this anger that kept growing inside me, it was like a parasite, working its way deeper into my soul, I wasn't me. I wasn't a horrible person, but I was a scared little girl who had been hurt way too many times. And I wasn't willing to let anyone hurt me again.
My first year in college was rocky, I'd go into a rage if someone even looked at me in a funny way, because of this, my counsellor decided to try anger management with me, I felt a bit stupid doing anger management with her, I couldn't see it working... that was until she taught me the 'helicopter view'.
The helicopter view is the use of your imagination to look down on a situation from a birds eye view, like looking down at yourself in a helicopter.
As a creative girl I found this an easy concept, although much difficult in a situation when you just want to punch someone...
She taught me to 'step out of my body' and examine the situation around me, examine what had made me like this, if it was rational, what it would look like from someone else's view, and also what would be the wisest action to take (apparently not punching someone).
I found this an easier exercise for me, although there are many others! take a look at the website below for a full booklet that you can print off and keep so you can fill it in!
I hope you all found this helpful!
Lots of love,
Here is my visualisation work sheet